Five qualities of a Muslim Wife
A
wife who is strong in her faith and devotion to Allah is considered attractive in Islam as she is supportive,
and encourages her husband in his religious journey.
2.
Obedience (‘Taha’)
A wife who is obedient to her husband and respects him is considered attractive, as she will be a supportive partner, and helps to maintain a harmonious household.
3. Modesty (‘Haya’).
A wife who is modest and chaste in her behaviour, in her dress, is considered attractive as she will preserve her dignity and the honour of her family.
4.
Hospitality (‘Diafa’)
A wife who
is hospitable and welcoming to guests is considered attractive as she will
create a warm and welcoming environment for her family and community.
5.
Gratitude [‘Shukr’]
A wife who
is grateful and content with what Allah has provided is considered attractive.
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Relationship Advice
Never allow your heart
to be given to someone. People have a ‘crush’ sometimes when they're young- 10,11,12,15,18.
Sometimes it's a crush: it's someone you ‘see’ (and develop) infatuation. You
know, you're excited: wow, I'd love this person as a husband (/wife). And you
don't know a thing about him/her. You've probably seen them online. Those
marriages are very tough.
You need to find out much
about them (the person of your special interest) without attachment
[objectively]. When you find out about someone with attachment to them, you're
going to ignore the red flags and the negative (aspects). But when you find out
about someone before you're even attached to him/her, you immediately are able
to navigate through what's a red flag, and (judge for yourself) what is not
worth going into, and what is worth pursuing to the next level. So be careful
as you grow up. You might like this one and like that one; not everyone you
like is worth getting married to. You need to focus on who is fit to be the
parent of your child.
True Love & Sacrifice
True love is the love that
is prepared to sacrifice. True love is the love that is prepared to compromise
a little bit. True love is the love that is prepared to understand. True love
is the love that is prepared to communicate. True love is the love that is
prepared to sacrifice for the broader good. That is genuine love.
Today people pass on a
statement that ‘I love you’, in a second he sees you. Subhan Allah, they are saying ‘I love you’, I love what you look
like. But they’ve just dropped the other part of it, okay. And it’s not only
about what you look like.
Are they prepared- and,
are you prepared to sacrifice? For indeed love can be very painful as well. Are
you prepared to endure a little bit of the pain in order to see that humanity
continues in the way that will be filled with growth, rather than with
negativity? True love is indeed the love that is prepared to sacrifice.
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Over-thinking is from Shaytan. Whatever happened in our life, it was the ‘Qadr’ of Allah. And it was best for us. You just have to keep living, and not stress over what you can't control. Don't waste your time worrying. When Allah is the controller of everything, ask Allah to constantly guide you.
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A Duah for Pure Living
Allahumma abdil
qalaqi sakinah
O Allah, replace my
anxiety with serenity
Wa hammi inshirahan
and (replace) my worries with relief
Wa-sakhti ridhan
and my anger with
contentment
Wa khawfi tamaanina
and my fears with
tranquility.
Allahumma abdil ajzi qudrah
O Allah, replace my
weakness with strength
Wa deeqi farahan wa'usri yusra
My distress with
happiness, and my hardships with ease
Wa da'fi quwwah
transform my incapacity
into capacity.
Allahumma ayyaman kama nuhibb
O Allah, grant us days
as we love them
Wa halan afdal
and better
circumstances than now
Wa hamman bi-qudratika yarhal
and by Your power, the
departure of our worries and distress
Allahhuma la taj'alni utruq baban laysa li
O Allah, do not make me
knock on a door that isn't mine
Wa la tasmah li-hubbin naqis an yadkhul
hayati
and do not allow
incomplete love to enter my life
Wa la ta'alliq ruhi bima laysa laha
and do not attach my
soul to what does not belong to it.
Allahumma farhatan la huzna ba'daha
O Allah, grant me
happiness with no sorrow after it
Wa karamatan wa huriyah la qayda yamna uha
and honor, and freedom
with no restraint
Wa izzata nafsin la insana wa la mawqif
yuza'zi uha
and the dignity of a
soul that no person or situation can shake
Allahumma rahatal bal
O Allah, (grant me)
peace of mind
Wa-ba'dan an al-qili wal-qal
and distance from
gossip and idle talk
Wa-ba'dan an hawan al-hajati wal-su'al
and to be far from the
humiliation of neediness and begging!
Aameen, Summa Aameen.
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Seven Levels of Hell
Do you know about the seven
levels of Jahannum, or Hell? Muslims
believe that there are seven levels of Jahannum
Just like seven levels of Jannah, or Heaven;
Jahannum is divided into seven levels.
Those are situated below each levels based on the gravity of the sins/crimes of
the sinners.
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A Duah for Jannah
‘Ya Allah, forgive me and make me among Your righteous servants; when the time of my death comes take my soul as a righteous servant. On the Day of Judgement and Resurrection, take me as a righteous servant, and put me in Jannah with Your righteous servants, Aameen.’
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[Adapted from Tarbiyyat lessons compiled and shared by the office of Imam- Jamaat Ul Sahih Al Islam International Hazrat Muhyiuddin Al Khalifatullah Munir Ahmad Azim (aba) of Mauritius in a recent series of communications with disciples and followers around the world].
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