2. The Sunnah of
Marriage
It's Sunnah to marry an older woman.
It's Sunnah to marry a divorcee.
It's Sunnah to marry a widow.
It's Sunnah to join the wife in household chores,
cooking, cleaning and washing.
It's Sunnah to put food
with your hand in your wife’s mouth as an expression of love.
It's
Sunnah to verbally express love, appreciation and respect to your wife.
It's
Sunnah to forgive her mistakes.
3. The Benefits of Nikah [Marriage]
(1) Allah will increase your provisions [‘rizq’].
(2) It
protects you from major sin.
(3) You
now have best friend, 24*7
(4) Life
is easy as your partner helps you with everything.
(5) If you have a bad day, you know someone
is waiting just to see you at home.
4. On Beauty and Duah
‘Shaitan’ tells you to
apply makeup/cosmetics to beautify yourself in front of all men. On the other
hand, Allah commands you not to beautify yourself to non-Mahram. So, who are you going to obey? Think!
When Allah brings out
the beauty in you, no makeup/cosmetics can give that 'Noor' glow.
Recite the following Duah after every Wudu (ablution):
‘Allahumma
anta hassanta Khalqi fahassin Khuluqi. ‘O Allah, You have beautified my
body, so beautify my character’
5. Inter-personal Relations
Never leave a true
relation for a few faults; nobody is perfect; nobody is correct and at the end,
love and affection is always greater than perfection.
Trust means everything,
but once it's broken sorry means nothing. Never cry for the person who hurts
you. Just smile & say: ‘Thank you for giving me the chance to find someone
better than you’.
Allah knew that person
was bad for you but you were too attached and couldn't bring yourself to leave him/her.
So Allah allowed him/her to hurt you in order for you to let go. Instead of
punishing you, Allah saved you. He did you a favour and now He's preparing you
for something better: ‘Indeed what is to come will be better for you than what
has gone by’ (Qur'an, 93:5).
Most men complain that
women do not like peace in a relationship, and that they are ‘dramatic’. However,
how you as a man treat a woman is how she will [re]act...Your spouse is
supposed to be your safe place, not another battle ground in your life... You
can’t expect peace when all you bring her is pain.
Duah for Ease in all matters:
‘Rabbi Yassir Wala Tu'assir Wa Tammim Bil Khair’.
[‘Oh Allah, make this task easy and do not make it
difficult. Oh Allah! Make it end well].
Two things to remember
in life: control your thoughts when you're alone, and control your words when
you're with people.
Keep striving for lawful
[‘Halal’ ] earnings or income; may
Allah protect us from illicit gains [‘Haram’].
[---Adapted
from a recent series of communications shared from the office of Imam Hazrat
Muhyiuddin Al Khalifatullah Munir Ahmad Azim (aba) of Mauritius to disciples
and followers in the Jamaat for their education and spiritual understanding].