Thursday, November 15, 2012

Muslim Parents and the Upbringing of Children

In his special sermon of October 05, 2012 on the occasion of the Annual Conference [“JALSA SALANA”] of the Jamaat Ul Sahih Al Islam International, the Khalifatullah Hadhrat Munir Ahmad Azim Sahib (atba) of Mauritius reflected on the fundamental values and structural norms on which the edifice of human society is constituted. The proper upbringing of children is central to the evolution of an orderly society and Islam lays much emphasis on this by insisting upon, inter alia, the moral standing of parents themselves.

Read the Extracts from the Sermon:

“Now I should like to say a few words on the Islamic teachings concerning the right upbringing of children. Islam has laid a strong emphasis on this point. Many social evil can be removed by the way we bring up our children, and the future generation may be saved from a lot of difficulties if kids are brought up properly and made to follow certain lines of conduct. Because we belong to diverse religions and diverse races, our children grow up with certain prejudices that could be eliminated through proper education in their very childhood.

Let us teach our children to love one another irrespective of caste, colour or cult. Let us tell them that the same blood courses through their veins and the incidence of birth in different homes does not make them different from one another. All children are equal and hence they should love one another. The fact of belonging to such a religion or such a race does not make one superior and another inferior. All are children of God and there should be no ill-feelings, rancour or hatred among them.

The Moral Standing of Parents

The first guidance offered to us by the religion of Islam is that husband and wife should marry on the basis of virtue and good moral standing. All psychologists agree on the point that the moral standing of parents leave an abiding impression on the children born of their union. Another guidance is that at the moment of this sexual relationship the father and mother say this prayer: “O our God, keep us away from Satan and keep Satan away from us.”

That is, at the moment of planting the seed, it is necessary to invoke the blessings of God so that the fruit thereof may be good and wholesome. Then when the child is born, the Azan and Iqamat (calls to prayer) are read in the baby’s ears. Thus on the clear and virgin tape of its mind some good words are recorded. We have the examples of Hazrat Ibrahim and Hazrat Zakariyya who offered repeatedly special prayers on behalf of their children. As if Islam lays down the responsibilities upon parents to start praying for children even before their birth so that the children when born may become good and respectable citizens capable of coping with the difficulties of life and fighting the social evils of their time. The Holy Quran further says: “Do not kill your children through fear of poverty.”

That is to say, parents should spare no expenses but rather consent to a lot of sacrifices, to bring up their children properly and give them a sound education. They should also see to it that apart from the right upbringing, the children receive the best of cares, so far as their physical health is concerned. Hazrat Muhammad (sa) has even asked parents to have a strong control upon themselves and not to be in a hurry to bring forth one baby after another.

The husband must know approximately the moment when his wife does not ovulate so that he can have sexual relations with her, so that this can act as a precaution till their child is weaned with its mother, and thus afterwards they can plan to have another baby with the permission of Allah. Family life should be planned in such a way that both husband and wife should profit by it and that evil also should not be propagated in the world as it is the case today with PILLS. Islam does not allow Family Planning on the ground of undernourishment or shortage of food. The food production is increasing daily.

According to the Holy Quran one seed can yield 700 and even more. One shining principle in the proper bringing up of children has been thus enunciated by the Holy Prophet of Islam (saw): “Honour and trust children and cultivate the spirit of TRUST in them.”