Spirituality is not a
set of vague feelings experienced by the Muslim but a daily practice for
success in this world and the hereafter.
Cohabitation (Married life)
is not easy because our desire to be free and not be constrained by the other
is greater than our desire to build a family. But for the Muslim, family is
sacred. As stated in the Quran, we must reflect on the place of every word, of
every verse.
“Among His signs is that He created from
yourselves wives so that you find tranquillity with them and He has set between
you bonds of love and mercy.” (Ar-Rum 30: 22).
The survival of
humanity passes through the family. Currently, we are witnessing the decline of
marriage. On the other hand, concubinage is becoming more frequent as well as
conflicts which arise because of it. The consequence of concubinage worldwide
is that over 20% of children are born outside marriage.
No law in the Civil
Code or other speaks of the duty to love. But in Islam, marriage will live by
love or last by mercy. And this love is a blessing which Allah deposits in the
heart of whomever He wills.
“Those who say: ‘O our
Lord! Grant us in our wives and our offspring the joy of our eyes and make us
guides to those who are pious (God-fearing).’ Those will be rewarded
with the highest place (in Paradise) because of their patience. Therein they
shall be met with salutations and peace.” (Al-Furqan, 25: 75-76).
Before announcing the reward,
there is beforehand the verse where we understand that love is a gift from God.
Among His servants, there are those who say: “Lord, let the sight of our wives and our children fill us with joy.”
This love will be directly related to paradise and guidance.
Take the example of the
Holy Prophet Hazrat Muhammad (pbuh) in the way he treated his wives, and he
vowed exceptional love for his two principal wives: Khadija (ra) and Aisha
(ra). He always spoke good of his late wife Hazrat Khadija (ra). Hazrat Aisha
(ra) was jealous of Hazrat Khadija (ra) despite the fact that she had ever seen
her. The Holy Prophet (pbuh) used to reminiscence her (Khadija) very often. And
it was always in a good way. He had good relations with the relatives of Khadija
(ra) even after the death of the latter. He used to send meat to her friends
and stood up to receive them as soon as he saw them. That is why, Aisha (ra)
was very jealous of her.