My dear Suruj Makin,
Assalamu Alaykum
Warahmatullah Wabarakaatuh.
I am most happy to deliver to you
some precious advices which shall benefit
you, not only in this life, but in
the hereafter as well. With the advent of a New Year, I wish you many blessings
in its midst, and I pray that Allah may crown your Jalsa Salana with much success
and blessings. Insha-Allah, Ameen.
Today, let’s us reflect
on those things that weigh heavily upon the heart and
shape the path we walk. We can speak of patience, modesty,
and gratitude, but to implement
it is of paramount importance. Besides this, there are other truths
that deserve our attention, truths that are often left in silence.
Today, I wish to remind you of these matters, so that our hearts may be awakened to the fear of Allah and His love.
One
subject that is seldom discussed is the importance of guarding the inner
thoughts. Many people focus on outward actions, yet forget that the heart is
the source of every deed. The whispers of envy, resentment, or pride can quietly
erode the soul even when the tongue remains silent. In modern times, we call it
caring for our mental health,
yet, Allah and His Prophet
(pbuh), through Islam have taught us how to deal with
stress and maintain the sanity of our minds and souls.
Allah knows what is hidden, and He judges not only what is done but also what is intended. Therefore, strive to purify your inner world. When you feel jealousy towards another woman, remind yourself that Allah distributes His blessings with wisdom. When resentment arises, remember that forgiveness is nobility. When pride tempts you, recall that all greatness belongs to Allah alone. The unseen world of the heart is where true battles are fought, and victory there is more precious than any outward achievement.
Another matter is the way we use our time. Time is a treasure that slips away unnoticed. Hours spent in idle talk, endless distraction, or chasing worldly desires are hours that will never return.
In a Hadith in Tirmidhi,
and reported by Abu
Barzah (ra), Hazrat Muhammad (pbuh) taught that the feet of a servant will not move on the Day of Judgement until he or
she is asked about her life and how she spent it.
The
Holy Prophet (pbuh) said: “The feet of a
servant will not move on the Day of Resurrection until he is asked about his
lifetime and how he used it, his knowledge and how he acted upon it, his wealth
and from where he acquired it and how he spent
it, and his body and how he exhausted it.”
Reflect
on this deeply. Ask yourself: how much of the day is devoted to Allah’s
remembrance, to learning, to serving others? Even small acts, such as reciting a verse of the Holy Qur’an, helping a neighbour, or teaching a
child, can transform wasted time into eternal reward. Do not allow the minutes
to vanish without meaning, for they are
the building blocks of your
destiny.
Keep in mind that each of you should also guard their tongue and be responsibe
for every word you utter. Words are powerful; they can heal or they can wound.
Many sins are committed not by the hand but by the tongue. Gossip, slander,
harshness, and careless remarks can destroy relationships and stain the soul.
Yet words can also uplift, inspire,
and bring comfort.
A gentle advice,
a kind greeting, or a prayer whispered for another can weigh heavily
on the scales of good deeds. Guard your tongue as you would guard a precious
jewel, for once spoken, words cannot be taken back. Speak only what pleases
Allah, and silence yourself when speech brings harm.
Another matter is the danger of neglecting small sins. Many people avoid great sins but allow small ones to accumulate, thinking they are insignificant. Yet small drops fill a vessel, and small sins can darken the heart until it becomes blind. A careless glance, a minor lie, a moment of arrogance – these may seem trivial, but they are seeds that grow into larger faults. Fear Allah in the small matters as much as in the great, for the believer is one who trembles at the thought of displeasing their Lord (be it for a woman or man) even in the smallest act.
Let us also reflect on the importance of hidden deeds. In a world where everything is displayed and shared, the value of secret worship is often forgotten. Remember my dear ones that the most beloved deeds to Allah are those done in secrecy, away from the eyes of people. A prayer offered
in the quiet of the night,
a coin given in charity
without anyone knowing,
a tear shed in solitude
for the sake of Allah – all
these are treasures that shine brightly on the Day of Judgement. Do not seek recognition for your worship;
seek only the pleasure of Allah. Hidden deeds
purify the intention and protect the soul from pride.
Another
advice I give you is the way we treat our families in private. Many women show
kindness in public but neglect gentleness at home. Yet the home is the first
place where faith is tested.
The Holy Prophet
Muhammad (pnuh) reminded
us that the best of people
are those who are best to their
families. Therefore, strive to
be patient with your children,
be respectful to your parents,
and gentle with your spouse. Do not let frustration
or fatigue lead to harshness, for every word spoken at home is recorded. The
home is a sanctuary, and it must be filled with mercy, for mercy invites the
blessings of Allah.
Let me remind you also of the importance of financial responsibility. This is a subject often ignored, yet it is vital.
Ladies, you should remember that wealth is a trust, and how it is earned and spent will be questioned. Avoid extravagance, for it leads to arrogance and waste. Avoid
stinginess, for it leads to hardness of heart. Spend wisely, and remember
that charity purifies
wealth. Even small acts of giving
– feeding a hungry person,
supporting a sister in need – are beloved
to Allah. Do not allow the desire for luxury to distract you from the
simplicity of faith, for true richness lies in being pleased
with the situation that Allah has placed you.
Another
thing is the danger of seeking validation from society. Many women
unfortunately measure their worth by the opinions of others, by beauty, status,
or possessions. Yet these are illusions. True worth lies in obedience to Allah.
Do not allow the standards
of society to dictate your value, for they change with time and
fashion. Allah’s standard
is eternal: righteousness, sincerity, and humility. Seek His approval, not the approval of people, for people’s praise cannot save you on the Day of Judgement.
Lastly, let us reflect on the importance of preparing for death. This is a very important subject, often avoided or overlooked, yet it is the most certain reality. You should always remember that every soul shall taste death, and none knows when their time will come. Do not delay repentance, for tomorrow is not guaranteed. Live each day as if it may be your last, and let every action be one that you would wish to present before Allah. Death is not the end but the beginning of eternity, and the wise woman – and even the wise man – prepares for it with fear of Allah and hope in His mercy.
My dear ones, these are matters that are vital for the health of the soul. Guard your inner thoughts; value your time; protect your speech; beware of small sins; cherish hidden deeds; nurture your family; manage your wealth responsibly; free yourself from society’s illusions; and prepare for death with sincerity. These advices are not meant to burden you but to awaken you, so that your journey may be guided by the fear of Allah and illuminated by His love.
May
Allah grant you strength, wisdom, and steadfastness, and may He make your lives a testimony of faith that shines in this world and the next. Insha-Allah,
Ameen.
[---Special Message by International Sadr of the Siraj Makin Hazrat Ummul Mu'mineen Fazli Amena Varsally, on the occasion of the Kerala Jamaat's 16th Jalsa Salana, Noor'ul Islam Masjid- Mathra, 01 January 2026 ~ 11 Rajab 1447 AH ].